Harmful toxic treatment from someone in an attachment relationship with you is not a red flag you can notice and drive by safely, it is a stop sign that you need to honor so that you can assess your surroundings (look both ways) and make sure you are safe to proceed before moving forward. How will you know if the coast is truly clear? 1) the person engaging the harmful behavior has taken full accountability and the action steps necessary to prevent it from happening again 2) there won’t be press

How to heal: Healing anxious attachment involves developing a sense of inner security and reducing the constant need for reassurance from others. The process starts with self-awareness, recognizing patterns of clinginess, fear of abandonment, and emotional dependency. Therapy, especially cognitive-behavioral or attachment-based, can help uncover the roots of these behaviors, often stemming from early experiences of inconsistency in caregiving. Building self-worth and learning to self-soothe duri